4 steps to get unstuck and deal with any business challenge
how to enable personal breakthroughs when no next step feels right
Do you keep hitting a wall no matter how much you try to solve a business-related problem?
If yes, then don’t worry - I got you.
The other day, one of my clients came into a session burning to talk about a „problem“ in her business, desperately wanting to find a solution to it.
After 15 minutes of confused rambling, I sensed that she didn’t WANT to find a solution. None of the solutions we came up with could have resolved the underlying feeling pulling the strings of her thoughts.
So I changed my course of action: 5 minutes later, we found ourselves diving deep into old fears and limiting beliefs.
Why did I go there with her?
Because 9 times out of 10 that resistance (emotional trigger, discomfort, impatience, roadblock, problem, or stuckness) is your own creation - and has little to do with your business.
The „problem“ is a front for an entirely different topic lingering in your subconscious mind. A wound, waiting for you to shine light on it - and therefore, a BIG opportunity for personal growth.
If you have the courage to face the trigger, you will look at the „problem“ with a new set of eyes.
Easier said than done. That is why I have created this practical 4-step process to guide you through it.
the 4 Practical Steps To Get Unstuck
I know. Your mind might be telling you: „You are doing something wrong. That is why you feel like this. Take action now and you will feel better!“.
Instead, do the complete opposite:
Distance yourself from the „problem“. Let go of trying to find a solution to fix your feelings.
Every emotion holds a little piece of personal information. Listen to it to figure out what that triggered part of you has to say.
Accept and embrace that truth. Integrate it.
Approach the same problem whenever you feel ready, but don’t wait until you feel perfect about it.
If that was a bit quick, no worries. Here’s an in-depth explanation of each step.
Step 1: Build Awareness Of The Illusion (aka. The „Problem“)
You know your mind is fooling you if you keep experiencing the same hurtful situation or emotions over and over again.
Again, your mind might be telling you that the problem you face now is an entirely new problem that you have NEVER experienced before. A problem or situation you need to solve now.
A simple trick to find out whether or not your mind is playing tricks on you:
Your ego is bruised at the thought of you not being right about the situation (or the problem)
There is no solution to your problem - no matter what you do, the feeling stays
If someone else does not validate your experience (that you are facing a „problem“) you feel hurt
If you are honest with yourself, you’ll know if you find yourself in one of these categories.
The question is: Why would your mind recreate a false „new“ situation?
The mind seeks what is familiar to you because experiencing the familiar feels safe to your body. It doesn’t matter if that familiar reality is hurting you or not.
You feel comforted if a core belief is confirmed. Your mind loves to create situations that enable you to feel the same way about yourself and the world.
Here’s the problem with that: If you want to fix a problem out of the same set of thoughts and emotions, you won’t move a smidge toward a solution. You are stuck in the same vibration as the problem.
The true solution can be found in a higher vibrational state - which is accompanied by new emotions and thoughts.
But how can you enter into a higher vibrational state?
Firstly, you need to acknowledge that you are recreation a familiar situation. Your mind wants you to experience the same emotions. It’s not doing that to harm you. It wants to keep you safe.
Knowing that your „problem“ is just a recreation - not reality - should take away a lot of pressure from the need to solve it.
Step 2: Figure Out What Is Going On
If you admit that to yourself, you have successfully done the hardest of all 4 steps.
That knowledge diminished your suffering immensely. Now, you have created some mind space to explore that wound so you can easily catch yourself next time.
Ask yourself the following questions (these are just suggestions - you can fill in your own here):
What do you feel?
Why do you feel that way?
What are you trying to achieve?
If you want to, you can talk about what you discovered with a trusted friend or partner.
Step 3: Embrace What You Discovered - But Don’t Be Too Identified With It
Now that you understand that wounded part of yourself, you are in possession of a little piece of personal truth.
You can decide what to do with that truth:
Do you want to take action?
Is it part of a traumatic reality and therefore needs love and compassion?
If the emotion was informed by a traumatic past event (that your mind was recreating), your ultimate truth might be a little bit different.
Let me make an example to explain what I mean:
You might be feeling some resistance towards posting your artwork online. The emotion is fear. Your body goes into a freeze response at the prospect of it.
The personal truth (informed by a traumatic event) is: „I don’t want to share my work with others“.
Step 3 is about acknowledging that and embracing it. Validating it.
That doesn’t mean you can’t post from now on. Your ultimate personal truth might be: „I want to share my work with others and be seen for my artistry“.
Instead of bulldozing the part of you that doesn’t want to post and doing it regardless - you accept it.
Doing that creates harmony within you. Both parts can move forward hand-in-hand.
Step 4: Wait. I Don’t Need To Be Healed To Take Action again?
When I say: „Approach the same problem whenever you feel ready“ I do NOT mean:
Spend 3 hours in meditation and go back to work only if you feel like the happiest, most healed version of yourself.
You do not need to be fully healed to take action that is aligned with your vision.
„Do not let the mood you are in now dictate what you do next. Act like the person you want to become.“ - Mel Robbins (author of „The High 5 Habit“)
Looking at the „problem“ in your business can be a matter of a 5-minute walk or 1 minute of putting a hand onto your heart and fully allowing yourself to feel.
„done is better than perfect“ - Sheryl Sandberg (author of „Lean In: Women, Work and The Will To Lead“)
Last Words
Remember: If you had stayed in your familiar, unhelpful patterns (aka. your comfort zone), you wouldn’t be facing this resistance. Nurture the underlying wounds - rather than act upon them - and you won’t be the same person after.
Then, the next time you approach your work, you will feel very different about the „problem“. It might have completely vanished and not turned out to be a „problem“ at all. Keep note of this experience somewhere to remind yourself that:
You are not your feelings. You are the one experiencing them.
If you try out any of these steps, feel free to share your experience with me personally or in the comments section!
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With love,
