how to incorporate ever-changing passions into your heart-led business
commitment-issues and the intuitive multi-business
Many highly sensitive people are longing to be self-employed and share their work like-minded people. They want to create a home of sorts, which is structured around their individual needs. However, some time after they get to work, the excitement fades away. The idea, which was initially meant to be a channel for their gifts, now feels like a prison.
A commitment that would keep them from pursuing something far better. They are overcome with resistance and forcing themselves to stick to the idea usually doesn’t work, so they give into where their excitement takes them next, thinking they just haven’t found their „true calling“ or „purpose“ yet.
For those of you who are aware of your interest - the overarching topic that has always accompanied you - then this stuckness can be quite unfulfilling. That’s why I’m introducing you to a concept that I call the intuitive multi-business: a structure that allows the pursuit of multiple passions and creates a safe space to heal your wounded self that experiences commitment-issues.
an endless struggle with ever-changing passions
It usually starts out great. You…
have an idea that you could turn into a project
get emotionally invested, feel excited and day-dream about your vision
if you get this far into the project, you…
channel that energy and getting started with some tasks
feel more and more overwhelmed/confused about the vision and your why for doing it
feel resistant, trapped and have thoughts like „I can’t convert this idea into a business“, „I’d rather do xyz“, „I don’t have enough knowledge to xyz“, „I’m not an expert in this“, „I don’t want to do this for the rest of my life“ or „this idea wont be successful either“
occasionally, you…
push yourself to stick to the idea, so you work on the easy and unnecessary tasks (e.g. designing a website, making flyers, a logo, searching for the perfect place to work, telling everyone about it). You rely heavily on your masculine energy to structure and advance in your work
at some point, you run out of willpower and the idea which no longer seems viable to you
you give up, which makes you feel relieved and free again, but also like a failure
Repeat this cycle until your friends call you flakey and you believe your commitment-issues are making self-employed impossible.
this is keeping you stuck and preventing commitment
Most likely two of your personalities are working against each other:
the visionary and enthusiast that comes up with amazing ideas and can’t wait to make the world a more beautiful, safe and inspirational place
the commitment-avoider that has been hurt many times by what it believes it needs to do or be in order to share their work, and happily withdraws whenever a red flag arises. It keeps you from working on your own projects, because it thinks it is saving you from a harmful situation
With these two parts already having different needs entirely, your body is hardwired to prevent anything from happening that could potentially be harmful to you. It derives what is harmful to you from beliefs and their proof from past experiences. Anytime you stray from your safety-zone or deny a personal truth, you find yourself in „shut down“ -mode.
You can figure out a personal truth through understanding the emotions you experience and the messages they are conveying to you. Whether that truth might be „I don’t have one passion“ or „I don’t want to share my work with others“ - until you embrace and consider this personal truth, building a business that feels like home will be quite difficult.
free yourself of these 4 constricting, conventional beliefs about doing business
Many HSP end up discovering that having a life-long career feels inauthentic to them, because they need to be able to explore new passions when they arise. To support that, here are some alternative ideas that might expand your view on the structure of your own business:
You don’t need to commit to just one career or business idea. You can work on different projects and business ideas at the same time. You can put one business area to the side for 1 month and work on something new. You can change between mediums that convey your message. Whether the projects are related to each other or not. I think of the intuitive mult-business as an artist that has created one business to share wherever their creativity takes them - poetry, ceramics, oil paintings, music. A masculine structure that contains their ever-changing feminine flow.
You don’t need a certificate or degree every time something peaks your interest. Imagine you’d need to acquire a university degree to justify every one of your personal interests. That’s impossible and you don’t need to be an expert to pursue an interest. There are other ways to manage imposter-syndrome. In self-employment, most of your potential clients/customers won’t be asking about degrees or certificates. They want to know whether or not you can see them and understand their needs, and give them what they are searching for / need help with.
You don’t need to consistently work on just one pursuit. If something else is taking up a lot of space in your life, if you just don’t feel inspired at the moment or your excitement is pulling you into another direction (this can also be a hobby), then let that feminine energy flow. This is so nurturing for your creativity and you can always come back to it when the time is right.
Become financially independent on the success of a new business idea. Being burdened with needing to make money fast really kills most highly sensitive people’s creativity. Survival mode will make you more vulnerable to that part which wants you to stick to it - whether you want to or not. Let financial reward be a natural byproduct of the love and energy you put into your work.
If you want to become self-employed, but are stuck in the cycle I described above, then teaching your body that it is safe to venture out and do multiple things at once will be life-changing for you.
Some highly sensitive people, however, are unable to stick to an idea because they actually shy away from being in touch with other people. If you can relate to that, then the commitment to sharing your work is deeply intertwined with your commitment to connection to other people. If you’d like to be guided through the healing work in your interpersonal relationships, learn more about 1:1 sessions here or directly get in touch with me here.
