overcoming the fear of coaching others
I’m writing this blog post one a calm, nourishing Saturday afternoon. It’s getting colder again here in Switzerland and that reminds me that summer is nearing its end already. Time has been flying by so fast these last couple of weeks! There have been so many exciting changes in my life that I’ve been wanting to share with you.
After almost a year-long break from coaching, I’ve taken on three new clients this summer.
Taking on these clients has been a huge step for me because I’d had such an awful experience the last time I presented myself as a coach. That was mostly due to the fact that I believed I needed to be fully healed in order to help others. It was the perfect excuse to constantly question my worthiness as a “helper” or “coach” and belittle myself to the point of feeling ashamed. Ashamed for calling myself a coach, taking on that role and presenting myself like that to people I was meeting. My self-worth was shattered and I was so incredibly fearful of rejection from others.
Beneath that fear of being judged for calling myself a “coach” was - surpriseeee - actually just a part of myself that took on a couple of beliefs from my parents. I still held onto those beliefs for dear life in the hopes of finally being enough. A part of me still wanted to get society’s support and recognition so that I would finally be safe and belong.
It took a lot of courage to distance myself from beliefs like “I need a proper education in order to help others” or “I need to totally understand human consciousness” or the one I mentioned above: “I need to be healed and have everything figured out so that others will respect me as a coach”.
And that’s exactly what I did. I had an honest look at the part of me that was crushing my sense of self-confidence in order to fit in to other people’s view of the world. I was behaving like a victim that depended on their love in order to feel safe. I created just enough space between myself and this little me to distance myself from the beliefs and start believing thoughts that felt more empowering and loving to me.
I fully embraced the fear and imposter-syndrome that came up when I offered my service to those that felt like my presence would help them in their paths. Now, I practice being courageous and stepping out of my comfort zone. Again and again. That’s where the magic has been happening for me lately.
Now, when I talk to my clients, I keep losing time because I’m so interested in the patterns and beliefs that keep them stuck in the same cycles. This work is SO DEEP guys. I love it. Yesterday, after a coaching session with my newest client, I told my boyfriend: I’d love to do this even more often. And that’s what I’m working towards now. Showing up for more and more people and helping them step into a more powerful and loving version of themselves.
That is why, today, I want to encourage you to have a look at those areas in your life where you want to step out of an old role and embrace a new one but a part of you is keeping you in your comfort zone. Have a second look at the beliefs that are holding you back. Become the detective of your mind. Be courageous and ask yourself:
Where did I learn these beliefs?
What am I protecting myself from?
What’s the underlying feeling in these beliefs? Is it painful to believe these thoughts or do they feel loving?
Do these beliefs align with the person I want to show up as in my life? A person that feels inspiring to me?
Are my actions actually in my best interest?
Embrace the underlying fears. Second-guess them. Practice transitioning into a different reality. Root into the present moment and watch your human body having another human experience. Acknowledge your own responsibility in taking action and behaving in a self-loving way.
Why? Because sometimes, what you are deeply longing for in life depends on you doing what you are most afraid of.
Much love,
